So whether a young one flew the coop for college, just got married, or recently moved out to start an independent life, here are some empty nest definitions and common questions and helpful tips for those experiencing the empty nest syndrome.

Rooky empty nester:

Letting baby bird leave the nest, believing that moral values and ethics are driven into their little bodies and then finding – oneself.

“Did I do a good enough job of raising my children?”

Parents probably ask this question until the day they die, but during this empty nest period, individuals need to put faith in the fact that they’ve done the best job they could in raising their children to be good, capable people. A common feeling empty nesters get inundated with is regret or things maybe they wish they had done or not done for their children.

Falling off the wagon empty nester:

Allowing the grown bird to return to the nest, normally for financial reasons and realizing that the freedom to walk around the house naked is gone.

“When is it really time to stop babying?”

While the point of children flying the coop is to become mature, independent, and responsible adults on their own, some parents are still tempted to help the child with car payments, rent, or other financial struggles. A mother’s love should not include pampering adult children. Parents can help adult children more if they allow them to grow up rather than babying them. While there’s nothing wrong with treating the adult child to dinner or a new pair of shoes, there’s a fine line between being a parent and being an enabler.

For a healthy transition for both, parents should limit the number of times they call or E-mail a week. The focus should be on establishing a friendship now that the “parenting” role has subsided. Keeping a relationship open with grown children is always a great thing; it is important to remember that someday parents will need to be taken care of, and the parent could be moving in with them.

“What do I do with myself now?”

Many empty nesters find that once their children leave the house, they just don’t know what to do with themselves as their lives were so devoted to the children. This is certainly a reasonable fear, but the answer to this question is easy – individuals can do things they weren’t able to do before like rearrange their life or making themselves and their spouse the first priority. Unless parents are paying for college or still supporting grown-up child, money should free up allowing exploration of other options in career paths, vacations, or hobbies.

Experienced empty nester:

Starting life anew and the person begins to do the things that he or she wants according to need, time, and money.

“How can I reconnect with my spouse?”

Were the children always the first priority while they were growing up, often pushing the spouse’s needs to the backseat? If so, reconnecting with the spouse can feel wonderful, but it can also feel foreign, even awkward. In order to reclaim the connection and romance, there are certain things that can be done. Reminisce about how the marriage felt as newlyweds – the intense attraction, the frequent sex and romantic gestures – and work on getting back to that place. All couples really need is a sincere effort. They can schedule dates or embark on romantic, spontaneous weekend getaways or find activities that they’ve always wanted to do, but couldn’t do as a full-time parent.

A parent’s job never seems to end, no matter where your adult children are in their life. There’s no such thing as out of sight, out of mind with children. Yet, the exciting part of being an empty nester comes in seeing children fend for themselves and do well on their own accord thanks to the parents.

So parents, let children fly away and be themselves. Like a mother robin teaching her chicks to fly and fend for themselves, parents have given love, grace and wisdom to their children to allow them to be who their spirit guides them to be.

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So, was the video enlightening? Do you have more questions? Below may help answer those questions.

Where to find coconut oil?

Most grocery stores do sell this marvelous natural cure, ie: King Soopers, Sun Flower, Natural Grocers, Whole Foods, etc.  It’s in the aisle with the cooking oils.

What should I look for?

It normally comes in a jar – pint size – and will look hard/dense and white in color.  Once it is at a certain temperature, it becomes soft.

What kind should I purchase?

Please purchase the organic, natural product ensuring that you are only getting the coconut and nothing else.

What do I do with it?

I like to get a jar for cooking and a jar for by my shower!  Let me tell you why! I use the coconut oil to do all of my cooking. Yes, baking, stir fries, popcorn! It does not have a strong coconut taste. Try it!!!  I love it in my shakes in the morning. I have a client who uses it instead of butter. I use it in everything… The second jar I purchase is by my shower. When you come out of the shower, your body is warm and relaxed. Take some coconut oil and rub down your entire body – for external use only. It takes approximately 5-7 minutes for the oil to soak in and this way you are giving your entire skin nutrients that it will love and your liver with love you for it. Remember, you shouldn’t put anything on your skin, unless you can eat it. Coconut oil is perfect!

Ways to Eat Coconut

Mature VS Young! Fresh Coconuts can be young or mature. Your coconuts have either a green shell or a white “husk” if the outer shell has been removed. Mature coconuts are the more familiar looking brown, hairy variety. Young coconuts have more “water” and soft, gel-like meat and mature coconuts have firm and les “water”.

Water or Juice: The liquid inside the coconut is known as coconut water or juice. It’s a great source of electrolytes!

Cream: Coconut cream is made from pressing the coconut meat. Excellent in smoothies. There are even some restaurants that have coconut ice cream – hand made…

Oil: As mentioned in the video, Coconut is abundantly endowed with special fatty acids called “medium chain saturated fatty acides” (MCFA’s) which are difested and changed by the body differently than other fats. Remember when you are purchasing this type of oil, it should be Organic Coconut Oil  (Omega Nutrition) or Unrefined Coconut Oil (spectrum).  I normally use “Spectrum”.

A good therapeutic dose is 3-4 tablespoons of coconut oil a day. This provides enough lauric acid to build the immune system. One tablespoon of dried shredded coconut contains about 2 grams of lauric acid and a tablespoon of pure coconut oils contains 7 grams.

Enjoy these and the other recommendations I suggested!

May 10 million angels guide you on your healing journey!

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